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You hear it a lot: “People Don’t Change.” But people DO change. At least some people do. I know I’ve changed A LOT over the years. So have some of my friends. But interestingly, some people do not – which can be awkward, lol. What about you – what are some of the biggest changes in your life in the last decade, or in the last few years even?
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I'm best known online for my Internet Marketing Blog and my Low Carb Diet blog (where I also talk about my fun travel adventures). But there is SO much more to me than work, food & travel. Which is why we're here. ;-) So let your hair down and let's have some REAL fun! *cheers*
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It would take me 10 years just to talk about the last 10 years! :}
I take it that’s a GOOD thing?
I really don’t believe people change…at least not at our core. I believe what changes is the way we respond to life’s situations. With the passage of time, as we become clearer about who we are, our responses become more our own, and less of what we think people expect. So from an outside perspective, it probably appears as if we’ve changed.
Interesting perspective, Olivia! Points to ponder.
Hey Lynn,
What can I say? At the risk of sounding drab. It will be ten years in a few days since the person that I was, died. (metaphorically and to a degree physically)
The past ten years have been spent rebuilding. Rebuilding, but also building to fill in the parts that had disappeared and I had to accept that some of those parts weren’t coming back.
After ten years I am a very different person. I am ready to take on tasks that I would never have ten years ago.
I have a whole skill set that I didn’t have ten years ago. I have a network of people and contacts that I would never thought possible ten yeas ago. I have over the past ten years figured out that I CAN go back to my old life and bring forward pieces that can compliment parts of my new life. The result is nothing short of amazing. A quality of life that I would have never thought possible ten years ago.
I have good health and a better understanding of how to maintain it, friends and family who love me and allow me to love them back, meaningful activities that keep me engaged day to day, week to week, month to month etc. The peace of mind in the knowledge of why I am here and where I am going. The joy of giving back to others without expecting anything in return. The resolve to say no when I need to.
I wouldn’t recommend that anyone should have a stroke as what happened in my case. I have to say though that when the chips are down and the lemons are piling up, it’s a GREAT time to learn to make lemonade.
I hope you are having an AWESOME tall glass of lemonade day!
smiles,
p.s. The best part is learning to
more often…..
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Fix me up a glass of lemonade as well, please! :}
Kudos to you Gary for creating a great life for yourself during a very difficult decade! Your story is INSPIRING.
And… lemonade is refreshing!
Thanks!
I liked this post, Lynn. It is very appropriate for me right now – especially the parts on how much time you used to spent caring about people who didn’t care about you. I seem to be learning that lesson right now and I need to move on as I find I’m spending so much time and energy on a few people who don’t’ seem to really care about me as a person. To their credit, I did muck up on some things, but since getting out of a slump I’ve changed (post babies) and am back to my happy loving self, which they don’t seem to give two damns about. So I appreciate that you’ve gone through something similar and have moved on because it gives me hope and peace that everything will be ok once I change my mindset about it.
I love the encouragement to others from this post. I’m now 31 and I’m at where you were. I look forward to getting to where you are now and appreciate you sharing this so I can look forward to the future and feeling comfortable and confident in my own skin. Thank you so much for sharing and letting us know that we’re just human, and we’re ok to hiccup if we need to because you can always change and get over it.
Hi Sarah! To be honest, I wouldn’t go back in time for anything. Most people I know miss their youth. Not me! I am SO loving my life right now, and even more… loving the direction I am going for my future.
Always look forward. And know that it’s okay to just leave some things behind you – where they belong.
I’ll say too, that some of the worst things I went through earlier in my life, in hindsight… turned out to be some of the best turning points or stepping stones to getting where I am today.
*cheers*
There have been several major shifts (some of earthquake proportions) in my life over the last 10 years. Some I did not initiate. Some I went along with willingly, others I fought every step of the way. Some resulted from a tiny snowball I sent gently rolling down a hill to see what would happen. (Oops!) One or two were mountains I deliberately set out to conquer.
I’ve gone through an immense amount of self-discovery during these shifts. I had lived most of my life trying so hard to please other people that I had unknowingly buried the person I truly am. This past decade of my life has been an excavation process to find myself and figure out who I am, what’s really important to me, and what I want my life to be… without the influence of other people. So, I guess you could say I’ve gone from someone who always cared for and about other people and what they thought to the point it was almost all-consuming… to someone who’s learned not to care. Well, I do still care, I’ve just learned how to change my own thermostat and turn the caring way down when I need to in order to not get sucked back into harmful extremes. It’s a good thing.
I don’t go with the flow any more. I always try to make thoughtful, deliberate, healthy choices for myself. I’m not so easily influenced by others. I’m on my own path and I know it’s the right path for me. I’ve learned that I can learn anything I need to know to create the life I want. That is huge. I’ve created several completely new career paths for myself over the years, just by deciding to do it, and setting out to learn everything I needed to know. Those careers no longer work for me, so now I’m learning a new one.
As much as I hate to admit it, life is all about change, pretty much. Think about getting on a roller-coaster ride. How enjoyable would the ride be if we spent all our time dragging our feet outside the car or clutching onto stationary objects trying to stop vs. sitting back in the seat and, even though it may be scary, allowing ourselves to relax as much as possible and try to enjoy the ride? I think that if we try too hard to avoid change all we get is beat up and knocked around by life. If we learn how to accept change, at least somewhat gracefully, life will be much easier and often we find ourselves to be much happier. I never liked change before, but now, and over the last 10 years, I’m changing
As life changes, we can’t help but be changed by it, to some degree. Our core values and principles may not change, or may not change much, but other parts of us often do, and it’s usually a good thing. Some call it “growing” and some say that if we are not growing we are dying, there is no in-between.
Thanks for sharing. :}
You make a great point about not going with the flow, Chris. That is one the of the major changes I made in my life as well: making deliberate choices and decisions. And taking my time about some of them, even!
Every rock in my path is not meant to be picked up and kept, or even examined. Some of them are just meant to step around and keep on walking.
I so enjoyed reading your comment, btw. You’re great at putting your thoughts into words. I can’t wait to see your blog(s)!
Finally I got to watching this video! Good stuff.
I was very interested to hear the part where you said you used to wait for sky to fall all the time. How did you get over that mindset? How long did it take?
Gosh, years I guess. I used to jokingly call myself “the queen of adversity” which I think somehow caused me more adversity – just because I was expecting it, lol. Who knows. Life just finally panned out and eased up in my thirties, thank goodness!