Punks, Precautions and Privacy…

This is the September 2006 blog post I was referring to in the video: Don’t Publish Your Physical Address! So let’s talk. What’s your take on rude comments, people who are totally out of line, freaks and stalkers. I’d love to hear how you protect your privacy, and what precautions you take to keep yourself […]

This is the September 2006 blog post I was referring to in the video: Don’t Publish Your Physical Address! So let’s talk. What’s your take on rude comments, people who are totally out of line, freaks and stalkers. I’d love to hear how you protect your privacy, and what precautions you take to keep yourself and your family safe from online predators…

Oh, and because I KNOW you’ll ask, the T-shirt came from ThinkGeek 😀

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My two favorite places to shop are Think Geek, and Tractor Supply – LOL. Does that fit what you thought you knew about me??

Don’t answer that – we’ll discuss it in the next video. 😉 Stay tuned!

About Lynn Terry

I'm best known online for my Internet Marketing Blog and my Low Carb Diet blog (where I also talk about my fun travel adventures). But there is SO much more to me than work, food & travel. Which is why we're here. ;-) So let your hair down and let's have some REAL fun! *cheers*

32 Responses to “Punks, Precautions and Privacy…”

  1. Casey March 18, 2012 at 10:30 pm #

    Soooooo not cool!

    To me that’s the same thing as turning up to the back door of the shop attendant that you spoke to at the shop earlier because you had a follow up question. Not cool at all.

    I’m a VERY private and cautious person and that would have freaked me right out.

    I’m very ‘paranoid’ when I’m home alone or out late at night, I don’t like it but unfortunately I feel I need to be.

    Whether it’s ‘appropriate’ or not or whether you’re paranoid is entirely up to you, or me, no one else.

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 7:23 am #

      I agree. There are all kinds of creeps out there. When I was younger (20 I think?) I worked as a waitress in a bar. I had a “customer” follow me home after work and harass me by knocking at every window around the entire house. I called the cops of course. Turns out he had a fake ID (under age) and was driving a stolen car. Was NOT his lucky night. 😛

  2. Sherie March 19, 2012 at 12:27 am #

    I am dumbfounded that this guy (Toby?) couldn’t understand the concerns of a single mother needing to protect herself and her children – especially with a young daughter that could have been outside when this creep came to your door. It only goes to show that some people are just plain idiots! (Sorry Lynn, I’m not being polite for this post.) Any law enforcement officer will say you are right to be concerned over this and right to do whatever you feel is appropriate to protect yourself and your children when you fear bodily harm. I know this because I have family in law enforcement.

    This really hits home with me. Some 25 years ago I had a girl friend that was abducted during the daytime at gunpoint, taken to her bank to withdraw money, driven around town for a few hours as the two guys spent her money, then later was found shot to death in an orange grove like some rat. After putting the evidence together, the police determined that had she screamed or created a scene or anything outrageous to draw attention to herself, she might be alive today – we’ll never know. Interviews with the killers showed she tried to ‘be nice’ and talk them into letting her go, which they eventually did – in the orange grove and drove away. Having second thoughts, they returned minutes later, parked the car some distance away and took turns taking pot-shots at her until she died!

    I know this is a frightening and dramatic story, and it is especially emotional for me – even after all these years. We women are sometimes too trusting, too polite, too understanding and friendly for our own good or that of our children. We ladies feel it’s our ‘role’ to be polite and courteous or we’re considered to be _itches.

    Even though this affected me profoundly, I’ve never been afraid to stay home alone, travel by myself, be out in business situations alone or even out late at night. But I do play it smart, and I don’t feel guilty on those times when I feel my instincts say to be suspicious.

    Lynn, you’ll never be frowned upon, made fun of or criticized by me for being SMART! But that’s one reason why many of us gals have protector dogs and know how to use a gun – you never know what ‘crazy’ might show up uninvited.

    So, personally, I wouldn’t give too hoots what anyone says or what they think about being overly protective of where you live. Do what YOU feel you need to do to be safe and keep your children safe. Besides, now that you have Slim…they’d be a fool to show up at your door uninvited! 🙂

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 7:25 am #

      What a sad story. That would haunt me too, Sherie.

      It reminds me of movie scenes where someone goes willingly. Not me. I’ve always said they’d have to kill me on the spot – no way I’m going anywhere with anyone against my will. I’d make a serious scene…

      You’d at least have a better chance of attracting help, or getting them caught.

  3. Satu March 19, 2012 at 5:07 am #

    Finland is still a very safe place to live, but I don’t open my door if I don’t know who comes knocking (am single, live alone). And coming to the back door just because you haven’t received a reply to your email in 48 hours sounds *funny* to me.

    What comes to Toby’s comment, some folks just enjoy leaving that kinds of comments on someone’s blog. I wouldn’t even bother answering it.

    Luckily you have Slim with you now….. 🙂

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 7:30 am #

      Funny for sure. 😛

      I didn’t bother responding to Toby’s comment. It was so condescending and outright rude in my opinion. So I just left it there. “whatever!”

      More recently I had a somewhat shady character knock on the front door trying to sell me a security system. I responded with “I already have one, thank you.” Something about his demeanor and facial expressions didn’t set well with me, and it occurred to me that he may be “fishing” to find homes *without* security – or with security systems that were outdated. Scoping people out, you know – only to come back later and rob them. *eek*

      Ooh. This reminds me of my creepy exterminator many years ago, when I lived in the cabin in the woods (it was infested with scorpions). Another story for another day… 😉

  4. Sherie March 19, 2012 at 8:12 am #

    Oh, can’t wait to hear about the cabin in the woods!
    Let’s see..(I’m thinking…)

    Will it be a funny story? spooky story? fishy story? hunting story? ‘dirty’ story? (No! I mean grimy, not X-rated! LOL) inspirational story?

    OK, you’ve got our interest peaked so… OUT, OUT WITH IT! Tell us the cabin story! You tell us such great stories anyway about your past, (like your grandmother, the water skiing, the fly-fishing, how you funded getting out on your own)…I can’t wait to hear the cabin story!

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 8:27 am #

      He was a real creep, lol. I’ll definitely have to fire up the camera and share that story. 😉 I’ve certainly dealt with my share!

  5. Traci Knoppe March 19, 2012 at 8:45 am #

    Mmmm – wonder if “Toby” is the creep who showed up at your backdoor all those years ago?!

    Working from home puts a unique twist on doing business. I do have a PO Box that I put on my web sites, emails, etc.. but I’ll have to check my WHOIS for my domains – not sure what I use for most of those! YIKES!!

    I’m also considering adding back in offline marketing to my business model. I pretty much put offline on hold when Your Web Tech Team took off like a shot & kept me so busy.

    With what I do (my skills, years of experience, etc..) offline is a perfect fit. I’m ready for a change of sorts, you know – seeing real people face-to-face! LOL But part of that offline type work can mean face-to-face meetings; and for privacy and security reasons, I’m seriously considering getting office space.

    Still mulling that over. But hubby and I went out yesterday and wrote down numbers for a few retail office spaces available here in town. There’s a lot of reasons why I’m considering this move… maybe I’ll do a video or blog post on it. 😉

    But first, I now have to go to ThinkGeek.com to check out their t-shirts. LOL

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 9:58 pm #

      LOL I have more shopping to do too. I so love their Tee’s!

      When I worked with local businesses I usually met them at their office. I had an office space of my own downtown, but it rarely got used.

      Keep me posted on what you decide. Exciting!

  6. Shawn March 19, 2012 at 2:53 pm #

    I agree with the previous comments. It is absolutely OK to do whatever is necessary to keep you, your family, and your home safe. When I began my writing/editing business in 1995, I was careful about having clients come to my house. If I had any hesitations, I asked them to meet me at a public place like Starbuck’s. A few refused, and I politely told them to find someone else. It’s easier these days since most folks will use e-mail. But if I do have an initial meeting and want some extra “security,” I alert my retired neighbor to watch out for me.

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 9:59 pm #

      Yeah, I’d be super wary about having people into my home. I’m funny about that anyway. My home is my one and only “personal space”. That’s what Starbucks was invented for, right? 😀

  7. Tina March 19, 2012 at 6:21 pm #

    Boy does this bring back memories. Back in 2006 and 2007 I sold physical products on eBay. Twice in that time I had someone show up at my door asking for their auction item they won. Both times I wasn’t at home because I still worked a full time job but my husband was home and he was not a happy camper when people started showing up at our door. Needless to say my days of selling physical products ended and that when I got into affiliate marketing and writing. Both of them were understanding and didn’t give my husband much of a problem, (one was a woman and one a man) and I’m not sure if maybe it was because my husband is a big guy but I send the items to both of them and politely told them they could not come by to pick up their items, Things worked out but I often wonder what would of happen had I been home alone and answered the door? I do not put my physical address online anymore although I do have to check my domain names, thanks for that tip.
    As for emails and comments, I just ignore them, it’s to much energy for me to respond. I have too many nice people who write to me and leave me great comments, I focus my energy on them.
    Thanks, I enjoy your vblog, may not always comment but I do enjoy watching them and I always seem to learn something 🙂

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 10:01 pm #

      Thank you, Tina! 😀

      Wow… that’s crazy that someone would even *think* they could pick up their items in person! haha Weird 😛

  8. Robert Nelson March 19, 2012 at 6:26 pm #

    Please do relate some of weirdo’s you’ve come across while traveling.(names can be changed to protect the guilty)lol

    Most intriguing is how does one get mugged(highjacked, yes) while in a car, as based on other things you’ve said I don’t see you letting a stranger into your car.

    • Lynn Terry March 19, 2012 at 10:03 pm #

      Oh, I didn’t let them IN my car.
      It’s a fun story – I’ll queue it up soon. 😉

  9. Gary March 20, 2012 at 7:13 pm #

    Hay Lynn,

    You are/were perfectly within the scope of reasonableness to be very concerned given what happened.

    True, most times things are innocent and someone just wasn’t thinking. Those sort of things do happen.

    However, even here on this quiet and sleepy little island and right here in this very community we have seen women beaten to death while others have been burned out of their home. Home invasions while families were sleeping and seniors beaten and robbed in their own homes. 🙁

    The point being that there are crazies everywhere and being reasonably cautious is just plain SMART. 😉

    I live in a secure building with almost all single women in the other units. Everyone is always careful about who we let inside.Besides I still have my five cell flashlight, (a little monster) my cane and the boys in blue on speed dial. LOL

    I hope you are having an AWESOME safe day!

    smiles, 🙂

    • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 7:51 am #

      True, there ARE crazies everywhere, and you just never know when you’re going to run into one – whether out & about, or at your own back door! I don’t care what anyone (even Toby lol) says – I reserve the right to be as cautious as I want to be. 😉

  10. Patti Winker March 20, 2012 at 8:05 pm #

    I’m wondering, too, if Toby was the guy. hmmm….

    There are some men who don’t get how women have to be always vigilant and how that affects us. Just walking through a parking lot we’re constantly ‘on guard.’ It is real life.

    Here’s a thought… if you worked outside the home in an office, would Toby think it was weird for someone to show up at your home to talk business? Does working at home mean you just leave the door open – “Open for Business” so to speak???

    Being safe in your own home means inviting only who you want to that home. That can be in any form – no posted addresses, for instance. And, people quit putting their home addresses in the phone books way, way, back. We took ours out in the 80s for heavens sake.

    Thanks for sharing this story. Normal people (not the Tobys of the world) understand a woman’s need to be safe and to feel safe.

    • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 7:52 am #

      So true. And it doesn’t take very many incidents to make you take extra precautions. I’ve had more than my share unfortunately. 😛

  11. Bridget March 20, 2012 at 10:30 pm #

    I think you are very smart to be wary and not rude at all, growing up in a big city I learned a lot about creeps and am now sometimes considered so unfriendly toward the opposite sex that I have been told I have the word B…. written on my forehead but hey it keeps me safe and I really don’t care what some people think. The guy who sent you that comment is a major jerk, you are not being paranoid because you want people to give you your privacy, most of the time I wouldn’t even like someone I know showing up at my door unexpected

    • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 7:54 am #

      I’m the same way. Unexpected company is one of my biggest pet peeves – even from a “best friend”. Most of the people who know me personally know this about me, and totally respect that. Especially considering I might be in the middle of recording audio or video, on a live recording, or any other number of things.

      I used to hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign on my door, and people would still knock (solicitors, religious groups, etc). Maddening, lol.

      • Traci Knoppe March 21, 2012 at 8:00 am #

        Me too Lynn!! I do fine around people – when I’ve prepared myself for that. When I know it’s coming. Unexpected always throws me off.

        Again, it’s the whole “selectively social” and the working in my PJs thing. I’m happy to have folks over – just call first. 😉

        • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 8:02 am #

          Exactly. Especially when creative inspiration hits and you want to ride it out and finish a project – or a brilliant blog post – or whatever it is. Distractions can totally derail you.

          I always say call first too. Then I’m bad about answering my phone. 😛 LOL…

          • Traci Knoppe March 21, 2012 at 8:28 am #

            LOL Well I do answer my phone, due to the nature of my business. But found it funny – have one client who is amazed that I answer my own phone! Uh, it was ringing. 😉

            I guess this client thought as the owner of the company, I would have someone else answer the phone. That day is coming; but for now – it rings, I stop the noise by answering it. 😉

          • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 8:42 am #

            I just turn my ringer off 😛

            Awful, I know – lol.

            I do answer my phone once a day. It has become a “habit” of mine over the years. I never know if it’ll be a fun phone call – or a solicitor. But once a day is my limit (haha).

            Yesterday it was a foreign man I could NOT understand, except to make out that his blog comment went into moderation and he wanted me to approve it. Interesting phone call… lol.

  12. Traci Knoppe March 21, 2012 at 8:53 am #

    Wow! He called you about a blog comment in moderation?!! Thankfully none of my blog commenters do that, or my phone would not stop ringing. LOL

    I have known you for a few years now, we’ve met in person and roomed together at NAMS – and I would not dream of trying to look up your phone number to call you!

    • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 9:12 am #

      Yeah lol – you wouldn’t believe some of the calls I get. My landline is published in all outgoing emails through Aweber of course, which is the source I’m sure. I also put it on my About pages.

      I really should answer it more often. No telling what cool opportunities & conversations I’m missing! 😛

  13. mark vann March 21, 2012 at 10:50 am #

    Great to hear these Lynn! When I was a police officer it was drilled into us to never get into a routine or set pattern of doing things. Best be on the safe side!

    • Lynn Terry March 21, 2012 at 10:54 am #

      Fortunately the general public is much more educated on these things thanks to Law & Order and Criminal Minds. 😀

  14. Kelly March 23, 2012 at 11:13 am #

    Lynn, I am WITH YOU on protecting our privacy. I’ve never experienced anything scary online but I was the ‘victim’ of a violent crime in my home when my son was only two years old. It happened because I was naive and unconcerned about basic safety.

    This made me hyper-vigilant and more than a little paranoid every since. There ARE evil minded people out there looking for an opportunity to hurt others. It’s sad but true.

    As a mother, we have even more of a reason to be protective and ‘be suspicious’ of others in a strategic, purposeful way!

    • Lynn Terry March 23, 2012 at 9:02 pm #

      So true. I hate to hear you were a victim of such a thing. It’s truly a shame that there are such people in the world. But the reality is… there are.

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