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About Lynn Terry
I'm best known online for my Internet Marketing Blog and my Low Carb Diet blog (where I also talk about my fun travel adventures). But there is SO much more to me than work, food & travel. Which is why we're here. ;-) So let your hair down and let's have some REAL fun! *cheers*
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Lynn you are so funny, anyone who doesn’t see you as ideal already doesn’t deserve you! You’re smart, side splittingly funny, articulate, you have core principles and live them.
I think we all put such pressure on ourselves to be ‘perfect’ hence the SuperMom, SuperDad, SuperWorker syndrome.
There’s a great quote from Marilyn Monroe – “anyone who doesn’t want you at your worst, doesn’t deserve you at your best”.
You are far, far from worst but the coolest thing I know about you is that you’re STILL striving to be your best and that is inspiring!
I love Marilyn Monroe quotes.
Good one, too!
Thank you, Debra. I do have several areas in my life where I’m currently slacking, and working hard to “get over the hump” with those things. Once I get in full swing with it (past the stuck stage) I’ll be much happier.
It’s less about perfection, and more about attracting a like minded person who is also “moving forward” and has ambitious goals – and knows how to tackle them!
As for… “anyone who doesn’t see you as ideal already” – um, that includes A LOT of people. LOL.
I’ve found dating to be incredibly difficult and frustrating. So I’m taking this “me break” to work on certain things before I dive back in. 
Yep, my take is we’re all always a work in progress. I feel if I ever think I’m ‘done’ I may as well give up
For me, a big part of the fun of life is striving for growth – in life, in business and in relationships of all types romantic, friends and family. They all present different opportunities, benefits and challenges of course, but they’re all equally important as we strive to find the right balance.
One of the biggest struggles I have is making sure it’s a two way street. I’m working on making sure all my relationships are based on mutual and equal benefit for all.
Like you I find there’s a lot of ‘brain picking’ goes on and if you’re naturally a generous spirit (which I know you are) it takes discipline to be sure people don’t take advantage of that. What I will say though is that when it’s truly a two way street, there is nothing more fun and exciting or rewarding.
Ditto ALL of that!
I think my “taking time to prepare” is a nice way of just stalling and taking some Me Time – lol. It actually inspires and motivates me to really push forward with my goals, which to be honest… are quite ambitious.
And you know me. I like having a VISION to keep me moving forward. And a vision of a handsome passionate man is certainly good for the motivation!
LOL…
Lynn,
I think it’s great to get clear about the kind of man you would like or say the qualities.Know your deal breakers.
I’m single and 49 and have found dating to be challenging. I’ve used Online dating and would again. I met some nice people. Most never went past the first meeting and some went longer.
If you’re open I would like to recommend https://www.facebook.com/pages/Evan-Marc-Katz-Americas-Leading-Dating-Expert/23002636685
He has been very helpful for me in understanding men in general and opened my eyes to things I do that may chase a man away.
Having fun with all this is key
Wishing you well
Thank you Bernita! I definitely know my deal breakers, LOL. I have a very low tolerance for BS.
And I agree with you. It’s all about the FUN. If a date is not MORE fun than being home doing my own thing (which I totally enjoy!), then I might as well be at home enjoying my life, right? 
Hey Lynn,
Ho boy!… After watching your video I thought you might appreciate a little help, finding a “MAN”.
I checked with Statler and Waldorf and they were anxious to dive right in and help out from the MAN’S point of view
http://youtu.be/PpgGwGIqc
I hope they can be helpful for you.
For me, I’m hanging out in their balcony seats. Best seats in the house to watch the show and heckle the actors. LOL!
As they say – “On with the show”
I hope you are having an AWESOME “shopping for a man” day!
smiles,
LOL Thanks, Gary – but the video gave me an error. Trick! haha And to be clear, I’m nowhere near ready to “find a man” just yet.
Just getting myself “in position” – which honestly, may take awhile.
The one I had in mind that actually inspired me to get on task… has put me on hold for the moment. Bah.
All in fun for now, and is a nice little motivator to put a rush on achieving some of my goals for the year!
Ooops… forgot how to spell my first name. ha! (it’s not like it’s too many letters or anything)
I am going to try the You tube video again with a different link.
If it doesn’t work I guess you will have to Google them and see what you get. Great man’ perspective stuff. LOL
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpgGwGIqccc&feature=related
smiles,
That link DID work, but you totally lost me with it?
Hey Lynn,
Sorry! It must be a Mars/Venus thingy. I don’t think I can explain it either.
On a totally different topic. I hosted a a guest blogger today on two of my blogs. He is a guy from Washington DC who asked if he could guest post on my blog.
Can you Google the phrase “5 tips for stroke prevention” just to see if my blog(s) come up on the first page of Google. I am curious as to what (if anything) gets ranked on your search.
The blogs are both stroke related of course and one is linked to a National Canadian Stroke Agency page.
This is a new experience for me but an interesting learning experience none the less.
Thanks for your help.
I hope you are having an AWESOME having fun day!
smiles,
I’m not sure which results would be yours? lol… I don’t know your domain!
Hey Lynn,
Oh yeah, domain… duh! LOL!
http://my-lifeafterstroke.blogspot.ca/ and http://my-lifeafterstroke.blogspot.ca/
thanks!
smiles,
It must be late and it’s been a long day. Let me try this one more time.
http://my-lifeafterstroke.blogspot.ca/
http://princeedwardislandstrokerecovery.blogspot.ca/
The #1 result at Google for that phrase on my end was your link:
http://my-lifeafterstroke.blogspot.com/2012/07/5-tips-for-stroke-prevention.html
I didn’t see the other link in the top 10. But if it’s the same content, Google would choose the one they deem the most relevant or authoritative to display of the two.
– You do realize this is what *always* happen when I’m focused on dating, right? I get put to work. LOL
The irony of your request made me smile!
hmmm, interesting. I have always thought that if we are comfortable with ourselves we usually do pretty much okay.
Sounds like the process will be ongoing, and I am not sure that things like life and love ever really follow the path we might like them to. Chances are you will be blindsided right out of the blue when you least expect it.
In the meantime, enjoy the journey.
~Marge
It’s really just a fun topic, and great inspiration for me at the moment.
I’m pretty darn happy right where I’m at, and even happier with the direction I’m headed!
Well, except for the dating department, lol, which is where I have some of the strangest stories and worst luck.
haha.
I’m a great catch. Heck, I’d marry me! LOL. The issue seems to be the type of people I attract, and some serious miscommunication problems (thus the flirt practice, heh).
I’ll just have to share some of these stories with you guys.
As one example, I dated a guy a few years ago that ended up cheating on me because I didn’t make plans with him for the 4th of July. Mind you we’d only been dating a couple months, and up to that point he was courting me proper. All was well, we were having fun, etc.
I didn’t catch on that he was “back on the market” until a good 6-8 weeks later. And his excuse? I spent the 4th of July with my kids! My reply: “Um, you didn’t ask me out for that day.” And at what point did he expect me to turn the tables and start asking HIM out – just 9-10 weeks into dating?? ::confusion::
I was sharing this story with a guy friend recently, and he said “I can totally see his side of the story.” Me: “Really??” He says men like it to be an equal share. So apparently I’m too old fashioned, or completely clueless lol.
Again, the reason I am practicing my more assertive side.
And in the meantime, spending some nice quality time with myself and my personal goals… and taking a break from being dumped, blown off, cheated on, and otherwise made to feel totally stupid. 
Lynn,
Great topic! I have a question for you. I have been following your videos for a while and we seem like soul sisters! I TOTALLY relate to your personality. I am also an introvert. Actually, I only recently started studying introversion and had so many ‘aha’ moments reading books about it that I feel like I know myself in a whole new way. I finally realized why my attempts to be more extroverted never worked in the past. I always wondered what was wrong with me. Now I know there’s nothing ‘wrong,’ I’m just introverted and wired differently than most.
Anyway, I related a lot to your videos about being an introvert and overcoming shyness and also your videos about being a total home body and enjoying your ‘me time.’
How have men responded to your personality type in the past? Are you honest from the get-go that you enjoy home time? Do you find that it’s a turn off? I’d love your thoughts on that.
The reason I ask is that I recently dated a guy and I felt SO insecure about my life or what appears to be a lack thereof because I enjoy solitary hobbies like creating websites, reading, and photography. I’m not super social and I feel like the whole dating world makes you feel like you need to have a life like what’s portrayed in a Match.com commercial!
Lynn, please share! I know I’ll relate to your response. I just hate that dating makes me feel insecure about my lifestyle.
Thanks!!!
Hi Dee
Great topic! I really love my life and lifestyle, and am very upfront about that. While I do travel a lot, I tend to keep to myself even then – and am otherwise at home.
Oddly enough one of the things that keeps coming up with men I’ve dated is jealousy or insecurity. Which totally blows my mind! Considering I am usually sitting right here in my PJ’s lol. Or maybe doing something with my kids.
It’s not like I’m a total extrovert out club hopping or socializing – or schmoozin’ n boozin’ with friends every night of the week.
So that one really throws me for a loop. I’m loyal to a fault, and of course easy to track if you have the internet or a smart phone. LOL.
But no, I haven’t really had any trouble with that. I let it be known I prefer to go to lunch on a Tuesday afternoon than dinner on a Saturday night – because I really dislike the lines & crowds. No big deal (or they don’t say anything about it at least).
WIth the last guy I dated, he turned me down on everything I did want to do. A day trip, the local Podcamp event, and a few others – and two different times that I invited him over when I had a friend here. And then in the end… he accused me of shutting him out of my life and “never letting him in”. Talk about confusing! :-/
I don’t mind to get out of my comfort zone and go do things – parties, sporting events, etc. It’s not my *favorite* thing to do, but I’m all about trying new things – at least once, lol.
As for what someone thinks of MY life or my choices, they can like it or not. But it’s part of the package. Ya know? I figure there has to be someone out there as quirky and introverted and FUN as I am… somewhere.