16 and Pair-Bonded No More

About Lynn Terry

I’m best known online for my Internet Marketing Blog and my Low Carb Diet blog (where I also talk about my fun travel adventures). But there is SO much more to me than work, food & travel. Which is why we’re here. ;-) So let your hair down and let’s have some REAL fun! *cheers*

40 Responses to “16 and Pair-Bonded No More”

  1. Angie May 17, 2012 at 12:31 pm #

    Totally his loss my friend. Hope your day gets better!

  2. Bridget May 17, 2012 at 12:34 pm #

    so sorry Lynn sending you hugs, if you need a shoulder or an ear give me a call, we are long overdue for a lunch

  3. Sherie May 17, 2012 at 12:40 pm #

    Lynn you always amaze me with your courage to talk straight and heartfelt with us when so many are afraid to be on camera at all…about anything. But even when sharing something so personal, so fresh and painful, you do it with grace, class and character. If something changed down the road and ’16’ happened to come back into your life for whatever reason, there isn’t anything here that would be hurtful to him or angry or embarrassing. So sorry it didn’t work out, but you’re quite a lady, my friend!

  4. Wendy May 17, 2012 at 12:55 pm #

    Oh, Lynn. So sorry that your heart is hurting. You are an extraordinary woman and will find a guy who appreciates, respects, and accepts you and the life you’ve created.

    Sending you hugs and compassion.

  5. Marge Burkell May 17, 2012 at 1:07 pm #

    Boy that one was hard to do. I agree totally his loss and there is a perfect one out there, you just haven’t found him yet.

    The perfect one will treasure you for ALL you are; a strong lady with lots of class.

    Hugs.

  6. Marge Burkell May 17, 2012 at 1:08 pm #

    Okay, this drives me nuts! How do I have a picture instead of a snowman show up when I comment on your site? LOL!

    • Robert Nelson May 17, 2012 at 1:12 pm #

      Do you create a picture and upload it to your profile on Clicknewz?

    • Lynn Terry May 17, 2012 at 6:27 pm #

      Hi Marge – you go to http://www.gravatar.com and sign up for an account. Upload your photo there. Then use the email address you used at Gravatar when commenting on blogs. 🙂

      • Marge Burkell May 17, 2012 at 6:59 pm #

        Thanks Lynn! Glad you cleared that up! I figured it was something like that, just never had a “reason” to set that up. Now let’s see if it works!

  7. Robert Nelson May 17, 2012 at 1:10 pm #

    It will be for the best and just put the shirt in the archives , and move on.

  8. Barbara May 17, 2012 at 1:11 pm #

    Lynn, I’m sure you know the old saying ‘ “tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”.

    Speaking as the voice of much experience it is very true! You are hurting now but that hurt will eventually morph into another rich life experience and prepare you for the next love.

    • Lynn Terry May 17, 2012 at 6:28 pm #

      “another rich life experience”

      lol… his name is Rich. *sigh* that’s okay though, it made me smile – thanks Barbara 🙂

  9. Carol O. May 17, 2012 at 1:58 pm #

    Oh Lynn, so so sorry you are hurting. Even though it doesn’t help, giving you up is his loss. You are a warm, caring person any man should be thrilled to love.

    Sending hugs and laughter.

  10. Gary May 17, 2012 at 2:19 pm #

    Lynn,

    Just finished watching your video. It was very hard to watch you hurting. I need to take a time out right now. I will post my comment later. 🙁

    • Lynn Terry May 17, 2012 at 6:26 pm #

      I apologize – pretty raw – and as much as I appreciate the comments here, I am unable to comment (yet) myself…

  11. Shawn May 17, 2012 at 3:12 pm #

    You truly are his loss. I admire your courage in sharing what happened. Take care of yourself.

  12. Satu May 17, 2012 at 4:10 pm #

    Oh, I’m so sorry to hear the relationship ended so soon, Lynn! 🙁 You do look great in that pink/red shirt though.

    I wonder why it’s so difficult to find someone who matches you on all levels..I’m talking about myself too.

  13. Wade Watson May 17, 2012 at 5:24 pm #

    (Virtual hug)

  14. Lynn Terry May 17, 2012 at 6:29 pm #

    Thank you. That’s all I can say right now, but I mean it from the bottom of my heart…

  15. Judy May 17, 2012 at 7:23 pm #

    You are courageous sharing that with us so soon. Any man of high value would not be intimidated by what you do for a living. He would be proud instead. Hang out with the Danes – there is comfort there. I see your pain and hope it moves away quickly. oxox

  16. Patty May 17, 2012 at 8:00 pm #

    Lynn… no need to comment… or apologize for not commenting… Just know there are dozens of us out here sending you big huge hugs!

  17. Lynn Terry May 17, 2012 at 8:36 pm #

    I regret hinting to the fact that I was even in a relationship. I regret sharing the shirts I ordered, that made that obvious. I’ve always been so discreet about my personal life in the past – in the 15 years I’ve worked online. Lesson learned.

    I should have learned that one already. When “the plumber” and I split up, I just wanted it to quietly pass while I dealt with it, but people knew – and it kept coming up in comments and conversation. So I couldn’t just leave it hanging out there.

    Tough call, sharing this today. Thanks for listening, and thanks for the support & encouragement. Life can just be a little too real sometimes…

    • Janice Dugas May 17, 2012 at 9:10 pm #

      Feeling your pain…For sure, something greater is coming your way. Hold on and stay strong. BIG BIG HUG Lynn! Take care.

    • Marge Burkell May 17, 2012 at 9:52 pm #

      I regret that you feel you have to compartmentalize your life. If you are happy about being in a relationship you should be able to shout it from the rooftops!

      • Lynn Terry May 17, 2012 at 9:56 pm #

        I just feel that way right now. It’s raw. I was so very happy, and loved sharing that… I said in the video I have no regrets, but I do have one big one: that there isn’t a single photo of us together. After 4 1/2 months, you’d think there would be. 🙁 I’d give anything for a happy moment to look back on from time to time. Fortunately I have vivid images in my mind…

  18. E. Sheppard May 17, 2012 at 9:32 pm #

    What a shocker that must have been for you, a new experience with an unexpected ending. I’m glad you still think you have a lot to offer – your fans agree. I hope the heartache fades away fast. ::hugs::

  19. Angela Wills May 18, 2012 at 12:10 am #

    Aww Lynn I hate that you’re sad like that right now but I know you’ll be more than OK.

    Don’t you dare spend sixteen (or even one) minutes wondering what you did wrong, k? You’re probably just too awesome, I can’t see any other explanation!

    HUGS!
    Angela

  20. Isobel May 18, 2012 at 3:38 am #

    Lynn, thank you for sharing such a personal time with us. Many, many virtual hugs to you.

    I’m with Angela, don’t think for a SECOND that anything that happened was your fault or that it would be different if you changed something. You can only show up as you are – which is pretty damn awesome 🙂 And if he doesn’t get that – totally his loss.

  21. Jackie May 18, 2012 at 7:36 am #

    🙁 the heartbreak is palpable, I’m so sorry Lynn.

    Chin up, and keep looking forward….you are one courageous woman, for sharing when you are so raw from the experience.

    Believe me. The right man is gonna kick ass to break down your door..and he’s gonna luv you whether your in the public eye or a hermit.

    Keep the faith 🙂 <<<>>>>>

  22. Judy May 18, 2012 at 9:15 am #

    Lynn, Use that strong visualization ability you have to visualize being with your true perfect man for you.

  23. Glennette May 18, 2012 at 10:17 am #

    I am so sorry for you Lynn! Watching that video was a bit painful as I could tell you were an inch away from tears. So here’s my suggestion for you:

    (1) No regrets. It is what it is and one day, you will find the perfect man for YOU. You are an awesome person and he’ll have to be a strong and confident man to not feel like he’s in your shadow but he is out there!

    (2) Grieve your loss. Yes it’s his loss as some have said but it’s yours too. You obviously cared about him a lot already. Take some time to think about what attracted you to him and just know that it will work out. It’s important to allow yourself to be upset for a while so just have a good cleansing cry when needed and don’t wallow in it.

    I will be praying for God to send you HIS man for you.

    Glennette

  24. melanie May 18, 2012 at 11:03 am #

    I truly felf your pain when you spoke Lynn, it took me until I was 38 to find a good man who “pair bonded” with me. A man who accepted me for me and my life and he stuck.

    But for now while it is still raw I send you a hug and strength for those nights when it feels hard to be alone again.

    Oh and wear that t-shirt because the colour really does suit you and you are “pair bonded” with yourself! You have achieved alot and it took alot for you to make that happen so give yourself some love 😉

  25. Lynn Terry May 18, 2012 at 9:19 pm #

    I feel a lot better today, and just want to say THANK YOU. I really appreciate your support and encouragement – you guys are the best.

    And I found a fix for my new shirts. LOL. Paper and Tape. haha

  26. Cindy Brock May 19, 2012 at 9:56 am #

    Oh Lynn. I am sorry. You are an amazing woman and I am certain that this is just a bump in the road as you move towards another love (had to believe now) who’s in your future.

    XOXOX

  27. Mitch Mitchell May 20, 2012 at 1:51 pm #

    Sorry you’re going through this Lynn, but it has to feel nice to have so much support from so many other people, including me. Pulling for you; take time if you need.

  28. Tracy Roberts May 21, 2012 at 9:24 am #

    I loves ya, gal!

  29. Tracy Robinson May 21, 2012 at 10:01 am #

    The right person is out there for you as long as you keep being yourself, I learned a long time ago not to change for anyone else. I figured if I wasn’t married by the time I was 30 that I would never get married, and at 35 I met my wife and married her. I decided that I didn’t want kids, yet my wife had 2 already and then within a few months we adopted 3 more.

    All of my family was shocked as none of them saw me being the Dad type, but actually I have been a stay at home father for the last few years and like to think that I am pretty good at it, lol.

    Even though I never thought there would be someone out there for me it was only when I just let go of wanting to be perfect and wanting someone else perfect that God put the best person ever in my path.

    • Lynn Terry May 27, 2012 at 11:39 am #

      What a beautiful story, Tracy. Congrats on finding your great love! 🙂

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