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I'm best known online for my Internet Marketing Blog and my Low Carb Diet blog (where I also talk about my fun travel adventures). But there is SO much more to me than work, food & travel. Which is why we're here. ;-) So let your hair down and let's have some REAL fun! *cheers*
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Hey Lynn,
Great video! Interesting illustration. I hadn’t ever thought of Lego in that way. The application does lend itself to the creation of an end result that is totally personal.
I like it!
I have always thought of projects and end results more like the pictures on a puzzle box and the steps to get the picture completed being to find and put in place the pieces of the puzzle.
I must be a visual person, as when I play my “what if” games I tend to PICTURE a future goal or project. That becomes the picture on the puzzle box and my job is to find the pieces of the puzzle and put them in place so that the picture comes together and becomes real.
That may be a little more structured than your Lego story but still similar in some ways.
I hope you are having an AWESOME choosing your Lego piece day!
smiles,
p.s. If you are in Atlanta for NAMS this weekend, I hope you can have lunch with Karon and the Step by Step Copy writing gang. Thanks for suggesting that I look at her stuff on SEO.
Also, very happy so far with her course. Thanks for that webinar with Karon and the deal on the course. – Gary
You’re welcome, she’s a real gem isn’t she?
The puzzle illustration is another great one!
Great video, Lynn! I was just going to write a post about “useless” choices – i.e. using a lot of energy trying to make the best choice when it doesn’t really matter one way or another.
What started me thinking was that I was sitting in a cafe on Monday afternoon with my mom, following how two stressed out women tried to decide what to have. It took them at least 5 minutes. Trying to make an optimal (or maximal?) decision in a situation like this is just a waste of time and energy.
I guess I gotta go and actually write that post…
This time I heard Slim moving in the background!
Let me know when you publish that post. I’d love to read it! You’ll have to come back here and share the link with us.
Hi again!
Regarding the lego analogy, I spend an inordinate time hesitating and wondering if my lego castle will look what I want it to look.
use so much time for that I don’t get half as much done as I could.
I’m working on it though.
I published my post re useless choices on BC.
http://bodycapable.com/2841/how-to-avoid-stress/
This is way too deep for me after being in training sessions all day long. LOL My brain is tireeddddddddd! zzzzz……
Hi Lynn!
I’m sure you can related to this… as a single, homeschooling, work at home mom, I was always happy that I had freedom and could make my own choices.
But then my daughter got older, and she wanted to go to middle school with her friends. I told her I disagreed but at 13 I didn’t want to force her or choose something like that for her. I didn’t want her to go.
Since 2003 I have been taking care of my grandmother when my parents left for the west coast when she was 80 yrs old and already needing help. I felt as if i didn’t have a choice to take care of her though. I love my grandmother and didn’t mind going to visit her and help her out a bit..But her caregiving needs have increased every year. 6 years ago she started having memory issues and mild dementia. She has been living with me for 5 years. She can not be left alone at all, she is like a big stubborn toddler, and in the last year she has needed help with toileting also which brings a whole new set of problems. She can barely walk, so I have to walk with her leaning on me all day, and take her to the bathroom every 3 hours, so I am not sleeping either. Its hard for me even to work at home, because she is very distracting.
OOps sorry I didn’t mean to this to be a caregiving comment. I know you can relate from your experience with your father and your grandmother.
My point is that now I feel like I have almost no choices.. except do I take a shower while she naps, or make phone calls? I will not put her in a nursing home, yes that is my choice, and I chose to bring her here when she couldn’t be alone anymore (late at night, when she was hallucinating and I realized she couldn’t be alone anymore)
What do we do when we can’t make any big choices, and are trapped?
There are so many things I want to do.. but I can’t.
I would love to hear your insight on this.
I had to make the decision about letting my children go back to public school as well, which I did not want to do either. But they did, and they did fine – all has turned out well in the end.
Sometimes we have to make the better of two bad choices, when in those kinds of circumstances. Particularly when they involve other people – like family or spouses or close friends.
I went through many of the same issues you’re dealing with now. The two years I took care of my grandmother I had to bathe her, groom her, get up with her in the night, keep a super close eye on her, etc – while running my business and raising my kids. Who were much younger then. It’s not easy, I know. My heart goes out to you.
The best advice I can offer is to figure out what you really want your life to look like 10 years from now – with all of this behind you. Get a very clear vision of what you want out of life, what kind of person you will be, where you will live – and more importantly, how you spend your time day in and day out. Journal it out, even!
Then every single day, from exactly where you are, do something that moves you strategically toward that goal.
I know it seems like forever away, but this is what I did in my late 20′s when life was really hard and I felt “stuck” in it. I created a vision. I am now living that vision. Who knows where I would be now if I had not done that…
*cheers*
My daughter is 20 now. She is doing great attending one of the top state universities, ( In another state) she’s a great student, and a Resident Advisor for the dorm. I guess going to school was the right choice for HER.
She doesn’t discuss very many of her choices with me anymore.. right now she is visiting her boyfriend in Atlanta before she goes back to school. She didn’t help me much while she was at home.
The problem is that the choices I want to make, usually involve my daughter, and she’s not around. LOL. So I’m trying to figure out what I can do for myself. For instance, I am getting a break (If all goes ok) from caregiving on Aug 22nd.I would love to go on vacation somewhere, or see some friends, but I’m stuck doing errands for the first few days because it’s impossible for me to do anything with my grandmother.
I don’t have that many options. I’m having a hard time getting other people to commit to join me, so I’m just trying to make the best choices for myself that will help ME to recuperate (from caregiving physical stress like you mentioned in your being alone video).
I’m trying to visualize, talk about plans for the future, working tiny consistent steps online.. but I really have hardly any time to myself to even think. Sometimes last minute choices are good.
I have learned to be thankful that you can choose to drink either water or juice! LOL.
Thanks for your reply to my long comments