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I'm best known online for my Internet Marketing Blog and my Low Carb Diet blog (where I also talk about my fun travel adventures). But there is SO much more to me than work, food & travel. Which is why we're here. ;-) So let your hair down and let's have some REAL fun! *cheers*
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Nice video. Love your back deck!
One thing about love I have learned is, people often view love differently, or have different definitions of what love is. That has led me into some bad situations. I have always tried to be open and honest about who I was, sharing everything about myself early on, in the interest of letting the other person know who I was so they could make a more informed decision about whether to continue a relationship. Even with all that, the half-dozen relationships I have been in over the last 10 years have failed because the other person apparently didn’t listen or understand that I was serious about what I was telling them. Or… perhaps, they didn’t really know what they were looking for in the first place.
Bottom line: I think “love” just doesn’t mean the same to a lot of people these days as it did say in my parents generation. Love is taken for granted and treated far too casually. Real commitment is a rare thing, I think.
But that’s just my .02
Good points, Chris. I agree relationships are taken entirely too casually compared to previous generations. And yes, we all love in different ways, we all perceive and respond to the world differently even…
It’s chemistry, not fate, soul mate, etc. But one-sided chemistry isn’t any fun.. It’s probably because of Hollywood that we believe in fate, soul mates, etc. The Divorce rate in this country says something, but am not quite sure exactly what.
I’m much more a free will sort myself.
You have a great outlook now Lynn! I always wanted to be married and live happily ever after too since I was young (and it DOES come from watching those Disney movies lol). I suffered a lot as well by having that mindset. I went through some rough times but I thank GOD that certain things happened and I got my head on straight. I will not let my girls watch that crap or think they are a princess.
Now years later I am very happily married and I think it comes down to the that fact that we share the same beliefs and values. And actually he wasn’t ‘my type’ per se but he was very attractive and do you know… our chemistry gets better and better each year (well his chemistry was always there – men!)!
Seriously I used to think that he was ok looking (when I first met him) but now I’m like he’s HOT LOL! omg that is too funny to even say! So you can’t discount someone if you don’t automatically ‘feel’ something or see fireworks or whatever. Besides feelings are so overrated! They are so fickle!
Feelings are fickle indeed!
I know exactly what you mean too. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. 
I loved watching this video. It’s just like I weren’t really alone here sipping tea but chatting with a friend.
My view on this issue: I read tons of historical romances when I was young but for some reason(?) having marriage and children was never what I hoped for myself. I guess I expected to have a great career or something (I didn’t get marriage and kids nor great career….). I did get very depressed when my latest career tanked – maybe it wasn’t mutual after all.
I guess that at the moment (just turned 44) what I hope for the rest of life to be exciting, fulfilling and fun.
P.S. I think Slim and Mylah probably think they’ve found true love.
Your “p.s.” made me smile and warmed my heart. So true. They have been so loyal and loving this week, knowing I need extra love and cuddles. Dog Love is an amazing thing.
I feel the same way. It was nice to have some company over yesterday on the back deck, and just have a chat with friends. I often wish we all lived closer, but for me… this is the next best thing.
There are no words to describe what a blessing you are to the world. From the first minute I met you at NAMS (I think it was #3), I was amazed (and continue to be) at how you live your life. Your outlook on this situation is no exception.
The one person I *thought* was my soul mate ripped the life out of me at a very young age. That’s when the idea of the fairytale and chemistry died for me. However, for the past 23 years, I have enjoyed a marriage based upon mutual respect and deep affection. I cannot imagine spending the rest of my life without my husband. Sure: it never was or never will be the fairytale…but that’s ok.
Cindy
Thank you Cindy
I love hearing beautiful success stories. Thank you for sharing that. And *cheers* to you both!
Nice to hear another’s thoughts on this topic and thanks for sharing. I think chemistry is different for everyone and from my experience you gotta have that if you want to have any fun together
PS Poor Slim looks totally bored over this topic and think he is wishing he was down in the backyard running a Kentucky Derby race instead
LOL he does love to run his laps!
I’m just wondering if you’ve done a more recent video than this one. Today is June 1st and this is the latest one I can find. In fact, I never got a notification about this, I got “Let’s Rewind” notification though. Weird, I know.
Also, fyi, the optin crusher on clicknewz always comes up for me on that site, even though I’m subscribed. I thought it wasn’t supposed to do that. Just thought I’d mention it.
Have a great weekend!
Thanks Chris! I just published a new one today, and have another coming out tomorrow.
I am working on the form issue too, appreciate the heads-up on that.
Lynn, it almost cracks me up that you’re 39 and talking about “I had a good life,” as if it’s over! (But you’re a “youngun” to me…)
You share yourself so readily, it is a gift to be able to express yourself so authentically on camera. (And perhaps 14 years of blogging have been good practice at self-disclosure… or else have just left you frustrated you couldn’t share more personally!)
I’ve had some similar experiences, have been divorced/ living alone for 14 years now, which at times (especially at the 10-year mark) I found very discouraging. But as time goes on and I grow more, I find myself grateful that none of the relationships worked out.
One of my “aha’s” has been discovering how resilient the heart is. It always recovers to love again, if we are willing to take the risk. And as we become more at peace in our own skin (single or coupled), as I sense you have become, we realize there is really little to risk. (I wrote more extensively about my own aha’s in a post on The Gift of Ten Broken Hearts at http://totalwealthcoaching.com/wp/love-and-abundance-the-gift-of-ten-broken-hearts/ , sorry, perhaps there is an artful way to imbed that!)
I will come back to watch more another day… but I’m glad you mentioned LynnTerry.TV on the brainstorm hour today, it’s a delightful discovery!
Welcome Kate!
I can’t wait to check out your link. I’m headed out the door at the moment, but opened it to read when I get back.
I only meant I have no regrets. I do love my life as it is, as I should – since I created it, lol. And I know I have plenty of life left to live… and am so looking forward to more adventures and fairy tales!
I broke up with this lady over “chemistry” and I felt the lack of chemistry myself, but I also know we did not have that much time with each other and I wonder if sometimes people just are not willing to invest the time to learn about the other. Some times chemistry works when the elements have been swirling around the beaker for some time. And yes,,after some time you know it’s not gong to work, but come on … give it some time. It sounds like you did give your relationships some time and space and good for you. You’re a thoughtful lady and I am sure someone will recognize that.
People come up with all kinds of reasons to break off relationships. Sometimes you just have to accept that it was their best “excuse” (or exit strategy) and not necessarily the truth.
I do try to give relationships (friendships included) the time – and the benefit of the doubt – that they deserve. And each with a fresh set of eyes and a fresh attitude, not comparing them with anyone else.
Still, not everyone is a match. Whether it be professional peers, business partners, employees/employers, friends or dates… and sometimes you just have to accept that for what it is.